1. A Man That Does not Love & Respect His Mother
There is a
thin line between a mommy’s boy and a man who genuinely loves his mom. A
man should love his mother and respect her even when he disagrees with
her. If a man doesn’t respect his mum, what makes you think he would
respect you? He shouldn’t be a mommy’s boy with no backbone but he
should respectfully disagree with her if the need arises.
2. A Man That Beats His Sisters
Forget
that he is the older one or that his parents approve of it. There is a
natural imbalance of strength between a man and a woman. A man that
feels it is okay to beat his sisters won’t think twice before hitting
you. His sisters are his blood relations and yet he hits them, how much
more you? If he cannot protect his sisters, what is the assurance that
he will protect you?
3. A Man That Is Money Conscious
This
type has only one thing on his mind, ‘make money’ by whatever means
whether good or bad. In the long run, he would probably do something
that will embarrass your family. He also believes his money should earn
him your respect irrespective of his character.
4. A Man That Cannot Cook
Just
ask yourself some simple questions. What will happen to your kids or
even to you if you are sick and bedridden? What will happen to your kids
if you happen to travel? What will happen to your kids if by nature of
your job, you close later than your husband? Finally, what will happen
to them if peradventure you die untimely? Will they starve? Or will your
husband replace you immediately even if the new mother is not a good
person?
5. A Man That Will Not Cook
This is quite common in
our society. He can cook but he chooses not to because they find it
quite demeaning. Truth is, this says a lot about how he sees you. If he
believes only you should do the degrading chores around the home, it is
because he believes you are a lesser human than him. Even if you are
dying, this one will rather buy food than cook o. Run.
6. A Man That Believes You Owe Him
This
type thinks he is doing you a favour by marrying you so he obviously
won’t respect you and expects you to take anything he dishes out to you.
7. A Man That Carries Kids For The Gram
There
is a new trend lately of men with children all over social media. They
are usually all lovey-dovey with them but don’t be deceived. People ooh
and aww at pictures like that only because we are not used to that kind
of image in our society. Half of these men probably don’t know how to
change diapers so once again the pressure is on you to always make the
children look good or you will hear it.
8. A Man That Believes it is Natural & Normal for Him To Philander
It
is not and will never be normal to cheat. It is a lie from the pit of
hell that so many believe and so many more perpetuate. If you agree with
this, then you agree that every man has a place in hell already which
we know is not true. What is wrong is wrong and everybody doing it will
not make it right. If you marry someone with this mentality, you know
what to expect.
9. A Man Who Cannot Answer To You
Wo, this
one will show you pepper in marriage. A fi mu e fon fere. You cannot
question his actions or inactions o. He will not be accountable to you
on how he spends money, where he goes, what time he comes in, etc. He
will make and take decisions that affect the family without consulting
you and without giving any tangible or logical reason. Awon team ‘I Will
Because I Know I Can’ leyi. He will wake up one morning and tell you to
change the school your children attend and you will be there wondering
what went wrong. Stay far away from them.
10. A Man Who Doesn’t Take The Issue of Rape & Child Molestation Seriously
Just
take note of your conversations with him when the issue of sexual
assault arises. If he is the type that always finds a way to blame the
victim, either male or female, you should have a rethink. He is not a
qualified father material. It will be dangerous for him to bath your
kids. Forget that they are his kids too, we hear stories na.
There
are many more things to look out for like his tolerance level,
humility, religious beliefs, gene compatibility, level of responsibility
etc. There are really no fast rules to this and you will probably never
meet a man that will not fail in one or two of the categories listed
above. Just decide within yourself which flaws you can live with. Selah.
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